Many of us know what it is like to be a burden to others. It is a common side effect of being controlled by an addiction or compulsive behavior. Sometimes our behavior has made us lose our job. As a result, we have found ourself in financial need. This humiliation can affect our family in many ways. We may have caused our loved ones great stress and shame because we haven’t provided for their needs. This happens to so many people and it is happening for a reason. The reason it is happening is because God is trying to get your attention. God is in control of all things, we have absolutely no control, our life will remain in chaos until we rely on God for all things.
The apostle Paul taught us to follow this standard: “For you know that you ought to follow our example. We were never lazy when we were with you. We never accepted food from anyone without paying for it. We worked hard day and night” (2 Thessalonians 3:7-8). “This should be your ambitions: to live a quiet life, minding your own business and working with your hands…As a result, people will respect the way you live, and you will not need to depend on others to meet your financial needs” (1 Thessalonians 4:11-12). This is how people should live their lives. The Bible says if you want to eat, you must work. This leads into this; when you help yourself, then God will help you. As long as we live our lives like this our Father in heaven will reward, for He is a rewarder to those who seek Him diligently.
It is important for us to think about how our irresponsibility has affected others. Much pain may have been caused by our failure to provide for our family’s needs. We need to reflect on how this failure has caused us to lose their respect and trust. The shame of not facing this aspect of our life can be terribly discouraging. Once we face this and become willing to make amends, our sense of self-respect will improve significantly. This step will help us get rid of some of our daily stresses, freeing us to proceed further with recovery.. Always remember this, when we first step out of our comfort zone we have a great and mighty God that we can trust and depend on even during the toughest times. I can do all things through Christ who gives me the strength I need. Philippians 4:13.